"Single White Female" much?

Sorry, it's been ages since I posted. However, I did complete The Year of Living Martha-ly and it damn well near killed me. Seriously, there is NO way anyone can do what Martha recommends without some sort of household help.

Anyhow, that is not the subject of today's post. No, it's dedicated to Ms. C.J., from the suburbs of Chicago, IL:

When my ex-MIL told me that you, my ex-husband's girlfriend, was obsessed with me and my former marriage, I honestly thought it was a joke. And a not funny one, at that. For years I heard about your focus on it and how you hated me (someone you only met once or twice.) Fine, whatever. I don't particularly like you, either. Granted I hardly knew you. I do know, however, that the way you treated my kids when they wanted to see their dad was deplorable. Not wanting them to stay at the home you shared with their father (which their grandparents so generously helped you make the down payment on) was low. Talking trash about me, when you don't know a damned thing about me, was pathetic. Finding out you avidly read my posts HERE, when I didn't advertise my blog anywhere except to my friends, proved your unhealthy motives. It meant you had to be searching for me online to find this page.

Oh, how do I know about this? My ex-MIL told me today that, when you and my ex-husband broke up, you sent her a package of documents. You, apparently, read my online posts, printed out any pages that referenced his family, and took the time to highlight the sections with said references and mailed them to her. You really didn't have anything better to do with your time? Time that you could have spent with your kids or with friends or even working was spent searching for dirt on me?!? HOW. F*CKING. SAD.

I could have been an ally to you. I know how difficult my ex can be and I could have provided a good "been there, done that" perspective to situations. And this could have allowed my daughters to better bond with their younger siblings and their father's ex-significant other. Instead you chose to try and destroy the relationship I have with his family. Why? Just because I am close with his family does NOT mean I ever wanted to be back with him. Our relationship ended for some very personal, solid reasons and no amount of time, discussions, etc. could EVER change my decision. Never mind that I am currently married to the best damned man I've ever had the pleasure of knowing. He's everything my ex isn't (and everything I need in life.) I was never any threat to you and your relationship with my ex, honey.

So, Ms. C.J., to sum everything up: You are obviously unhinged and paranoid, obsessing over someone you've only met once or twice. That's pathetic and sad. Get over it and leave me alone. (I've disabled comments on this page. Friends of mine who read this know and wish to comment will know how to reach me directly.) Seriously, get over it.

I feel for your children.

Mary

PS: Not only did my ex-MIL tell me about your package during a conversation today, she made a point of telling me that she NEVER EVEN READ IT. How funny is that?!? She tossed it into a storage box and the only reason she even found it today was because she was looking for photographs to help one of my daughters with a school report. After laughing about it and you, she said she has no interest in reading it. Wow.